I need to talk. It is in my nature to be effusive and thoughtful. So, I pay a therapist because most of the people in my life don’t have the time or desire to listen to me as much as I want them to. In fairness to myself though, I am also a solid and sincere listener often formulating a “never too humble” opinion.
Recently I told my therapist that I wish I could (at least sometimes) flip the racism switch in my mind to the off position.
When I told my partner I liked the new hand soap except for all the lathering which didn’t seem likely for a plant-based cleanser, he said “yea, and it kinda bothers me that it’s not white.” Like him.
I’m not sure what he meant, but my thoughts instinctively went to race and the cleansing purity of whiteness. It pissed me off, but there it was. Reach back, stress and flex to flip that switch.